Wednesday, March 01, 2006

Irony

I'm struck today with a huge sense of irony....so much so I'm almost laughing about it. Actually I am laughing about it.

Greg and I are in the process of making some changes in our lives....not sure of the direction....but change none the less. Now you would think that the people that are your "friends" would support you, right? Help you, encourage you, just be there for you. Today I find that it's not true in some situations. Not a big surprise but still it's and AHA moment.

I got a call today from someone that I would consider an "acquaintance"....she and I have spent a little time together, had a few conversations....I think she's a really nice person but I haven't had the opportunity to get to know her on a deep level. Anyway, this gal called to see if I was okay and just chat a bit.....seems that someone who I would consider a "friend" had shared with this woman, and a whole group of people, about the changes Greg and I are considering and really spoke of us in a negative light.....basically that we aren't really their "friends" because if we were we wouldn't be changing. Hmmmmmm......... so the friend that should love and support me isn't, but the aquaintence who has no real emotional investment in me is..............

Now, what to do? Talk to the "friend" about it? Blow it off? I don't know.....there are so many levels to this.......but here's a quote to ponder that seems to fit this situation well.....

"One's philosphy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes......In the long run, we shape our lives and we shape ourselves." Eleanor Roosevelt

2 comments:

Briana said...

No matter who they are, your friends should support you in good and bad. Sometimes in times like this, you find out who your true, real friends are!

Bonni said...

ITA with Catherine & Briana...sorry to hear that a "friend" would do this to you but because of her actions, she obviously isn't a friend! Do I need to come fly down with my shovels?? :)